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Marriage & Divorce (1 Corinthians 7)

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According to a recent survey by Pew Research, the percentage of all adults in the country who were married just a few decades ago was just a little over 70%. The numbers today hover at just a little over 50%.

Cohabitation, single-person households and single parenthood have all statistically increased in recent decades. This is most prevalent among younger adults.

In 1960, 59% of adults age 18-29 were married. Today, that number is just around 20%.

Of all married adults in the US, one third has experienced divorce at least once.

For years this statement has been made from pulpits across our nation, “Christians divorce at roughly the same rate as the world.” This most quoted statistic among pastors is perhaps the most inaccurate. 

Based on the best data available, the divorce rate among Christians is significantly lower than the general population.

From Baptist Press:

Many people who seriously practice a traditional religious faith -- be it Christian or other -- have a divorce rate markedly lower than the general population.

The factor making the most difference is religious commitment and practice. Couples who regularly practice any combination of serious religious behaviors and attitudes -- attend church nearly every week, read their Bibles and spiritual materials regularly; pray privately and together; generally take their faith seriously, living not as perfect disciples, but serious disciples -- enjoy significantly lower divorce rates than mere church members, the general public and unbelievers.

Professor Bradley Wright, a sociologist at the University of Connecticut, explains from his analysis of people who identify as Christians but rarely attend church, that 60 percent of these have been divorced. Of those who attend church regularly, 38 percent have been divorced [1].

No-fault divorce came about in the States in 1970 and since then a false declaration was made that basically said “divorce is a good option. It’s good for kids if mom and dad don’t get along, or if they don’t love each other, or aren’t happy. Therefore, it’s good – for mom, dad and the kids.” After all, we want everyone happy.

Divorce460Somewhere along the way, the self-seeking ideals of a culture that began to live with the presumption that life was about them and their personal, temporal happiness prevailed. And. . .we swim through a culture that uplifts personal opinion and feeling above absolute truth to such a degree that truth is often hard to find. When found, many find it difficult to believe.

We find ourselves in a state that many believe to be new, but as you study history, the breakdown of marriage has seemingly preceded, by a generation or two, the demise of empires and cultures.

These are just facts. . .and should not be shocking to us.

I’ve discovered that as you study history, human nature tends to prevail regardless of culture, century, race, or even religion. Lost people have always acted like lost people.

Darkness is strong. Depravity is inherent.

That’s why Jesus told us, as his disciples, we are to be the light of the world.

Now more than ever? Yes. Every generation of believers has stated that and it’s true.

So, as we look to 1 Corinthians 7, questions arise. Questions about relationships, about marriage, about divorce. Answers are sought – perhaps not authentically, but at least a curiosity prevails. Believers want to know what God has to say about marriage, about divorce, about remarriage. What’s allowed? What’s not? What happens if we’ve already messed up? Can we be redeemed?

If the picture of a man and woman uniting in holy matrimony is God’s illustration of Jesus’ relationship with the church, then it stands to reason the Enemy would do everything in his power to destroy that illustration, that picture of love and holiness, and consequently, the relationship between a husband and wife.

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