“When does a child become an adult? When does a boy become a man? When does a girl become a woman?”
- Age 13 – Teenager, no longer eating off the kids menu (legally.)
- Age 15 – Driver’s permit?
- Age 16 – Driver’s license?
- Age 18 – Legal to vote?
- Age 21 – Legal to drink?
- When puberty hits? (Different for everyone?)
- When puberty ends? (Somewhere around 25 or maybe 30?)
- When they get a job?
- When they have sexual relations?
The culture is confused, in so many ways, but this challenge of growing up is being stunted and causing more problems for families and individuals than ever in the past.
Have you ever heard of the term “adultescent?”
This is the moniker attached to adults who “fail to launch” and choose to remain home, stay unmarried, refuse commitments and continue to live as if they were 16 well up into their 30s. Unfortunately, some of this trend can be traced to parents who, though well-intentioned, have lacked the tools to usher their children into adulthood. In most cases, the parents never had a defining moment of adulthood, so creating one becomes the challenge.
Male and female genders are intentionally and strategically created by God for the individual even before conception. Authentic manhood and womanhood are bestowed. God has intended for parents to lead out in this area.
But, what about those who grew up in homes where there was no father or mother speaking truth into their lives?
What about parents who don’t know how to do this?
What about the teenagers who are living far outside the boundaries of morality and godliness?
Many parents just laugh it off and say “Let kids be kids.” While I think kids should be able to have fun and be kids, the frustration is that when adults who have all the trappings of adulthood live as though they are little more than kids in big people clothes.
Rites of passage are essential
Watch this video from our ROPE series. This is one designed for parents of 13 year olds.
It’s one thing to say “You need to create rites of passage for your kids at different stages and ages” and something totally different to say “Let us help you in this journey.”
Parents, grandparents, kids - We’re here to help you in this journey.
"Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one. You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. Deuteronomy 6:4-7 (ESV)
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