It's Monday and for pastors out there reading this, I want to remind you "Never resign on a Monday."
Sundays are big days for pastors. Days of preparation, even if to the average church attender, every Sunday feels like every other Sunday. Sundays take a lot of time. Much prayer goes into the services and events scheduled at most churches. In most cases, pastors delay their family time, time off, fun time with the kids, relaxation time, etc. - you know Sabbath - in preparation for these weekend gatherings.
Then, it's time for church and amazingly, people actually show up. That's always encouraging.
Yet, once the day is over, Monday hits and it's time for the "post-game press conference" at least in our heads (unless your John Crist, then you actually have one. See here.)
Perhaps you have heard the following, or things like this in the last 24 hours:
- The music was too loud.
- The music was great.
- The music was bad.
- The music was perfect.
- I felt welcomed.
- No one greeted me.
- I loved it here.
- It was a terrible experience.
- I'll be back.
- I'm never coming back.
- Loved the sermon.
- Weak sermon.
- Sermon was deep. Really made me think.
- Sermon was shallow. Milk, not meat.
- Sermon was like a seminary class. Loved that!
- Sermon was like a seminary class. I don't want to know all that language and history. Boring.
- Small group was great. Felt like home.
- Small group was a basically a clique. I think they were upset I showed up.
- Youth group time was great. Kids loved it.
- Youth group was terrible. No one there my kids go to school with.
- Youth group was great. Teachers were engaging. Class was fun.
- Youth group was terrible. Teachers were mean. Boring.
- Loved the small group. Teacher was so prepared.
- Hated the small group. Teacher didn't show up.
- My kids loved their group. Thank you for being so friendly, welcoming and providing a safe place.
- Hate the kids and preschool groups. Hate having to go through the security program. Won't be back.
- You guys are so down to earth and relatable.
- You guys are stuck up.
- Pastor makes me feel comfortable because he doesn't wear a tie.
- Pastor is disrespectful because he doesn't wear a tie.
- Pastor - we hate it, but our job is transferring us so this will be our last Sunday here. Thanks so much.
- Pastor - we've put up with it long enough, but we don't like what this church is, and our feelings are hurt again, so we're leaving and this will be our last Sunday here. Please take us off all the email lists.
- It's exciting to see what God is doing locally and globally through this church.
- We're frustrated that so many other things are happening when we think the church should just meet here.
- So glad we're able to engage globally on mission. Love our priorities.
- We probably should keep more of the money we're giving to missions and just pay off this building. Hate our priorities.
- We love you.
- We don't like you.
- You are such a caring person.
- You didn't visit me or my family member.
And all those comments likely came from the same service.
No, I didn't hear all those yesterday, but I have heard all those at some point. And, they're likely all true, at least from someone's perspective.
So, pastor, be encouraged. It's Monday. There will be more, but we don't serve the Lord for the applause of man, right? Yet, we do like that applause.
I know it hurts when the negative statements come. They're taken personal, because regardless how they're prefaced...they are personal.
Hang in there. Next Sunday is going to be awesome...unless it isn't.
Just make sure you're prayed up and prepared to preach the gospel. Preach it clearly, unapologetically, and with love. Never compromise the truth. Never lean on your own understanding, or skillset, or personality, or ability to motivate, or speaking style, but lean only on Christ.
It's Monday. Never resign on a Monday.